In an LDR, coping with the feeling of missing your SO is never easy. It’s not like you can just ring them up, tell them you miss them, and make plans to see them on your next free day off. Nor can you just simply drop by their house to see them.
Unfortunately, it is something that you have to learn how to deal with on your own. Of course sometimes your SO can try to help you by talking to you, but other times when this saudade feeling hits you, they may be busy and unable to immediately be there for you to speak with. In such cases, it’s good to try and find ways that you can cope with it on your own.
Here are some of ways that I try to cope with this feeling;
Talking to my SO
Obviously this is my first choice in coping with the feeling. If John is available, we will usually Skype call so that I can hear him, which helps me feel better, even if it’s only a little bit. Sometimes we will also play a game together or watch a movie/show, which helps a lot more because then not only can I hear him, I can also enjoy something together with him.
I am lucky in that I rent out the basement from my parents. This means that when I am feeling lonely I can simply just venture upstairs and get some good company. Usually I will go upstairs and watch a movie with them or sometimes I will play a game with my brother.
Netflix is a place I choose to go to sometimes when I want to try and occupy my mind. There are a lot of movies on there to watch or sometimes I will pick out an Anime series to watch. I find that settling down on the couch to watch a movie with a snack and perhaps a cup of tea or hot chocolate always helps me to relax!
This is a top choice of mine for getting my mind off things as it can be very easy for me to get absorbed into a game! Currently I’ve gotten back into The Sims 4 and have also started playing a game called Okami. I also plan on starting Tales of Vesperia again and finishing it. So if I ever get that unbearable feeling of missing John and he is busy, I will usually hop onto a game!
Another way that I try to cope with this feeling is by writing it out on my blogs. Usually when I am feeling the heavy weight of missing John, I get inspired to write about my feelings or to try and provide some advice and it often helps me feel better at the end of it.
For those of you who do not know what Saudade (sau-da-de) means, it is “a feeling of longing, melancholy, or nostalgia that is supposedly characteristic of the Portuguese or Brazilian temperament.”
Please feel free to share how you cope with this feeling!